Just another silly idea about an encounter…
Don’t misunderstand me. I won’t write this post in French, I just feel like the tittle has to be original, mysterious and romantic, so i thought “It should be in French!”
I have been pretty busy these days, not at all ,however I want to make myself a bit busy. Call it insane, but it was some legend that said “Get busy living or get busy dying” – or at least it’s the greeting quote on my cellphone whenever i open it, always amuse me. Cleaning up my bookshelf yesterday, i have never realized i had tons of books, all kinds of books, from innocent one to the complicated, exotic one. Still, there are some books that could not be listed in any specific category. One of them, on the top of the list is The little prince ( Le petit prince) of Saint-exupéry. Let me be clear at this point: I’m not a big fan of French literature and i didn’t like this book at all, but something, somehow did hit me right at my head and i realize it has such a weird impact on me. This book is surely a realistic drama for adult. Not a fairy tale, but a drama, a realistic one…
I love animal, i do. And mr. Exupéry did create a nice little world for me with sheep, chicken, ….and fox. Let talk about the fox. Why it has to be a fox? Because it’s foxy? I hope not, but the fox fits us anyway. People nowadays are pretty cunning, just like a fox, and we are here to fix each other, to learn something, to be hurt and to grow. In short, we try to fit in in the social mold by being a little fox. We have to be tamed.
What does it mean to be “tamed”? -said the little prince
“It is an act too often neglected. It means to establish ties” – the fox replies.
Those words really woke me up. How many time have I been ignoring to establish a connection? How many time have i been too lazy for a new relationship- any kinds of relationship just because the old ones already cost many time of mine? and How many time have I been so insensitive to get to know someone new just because of being busy with the sucking old ones? Did i miss any things? Well… I’m sure i did. I should have been tamed, i should have tamed in a right way. Sometimes all the word could never function right, as they are sources of misunderstanding. You think you are closed to someone? You think you know someone inside out since you talk to them everyday , trying to connect with a weak links- words. It is a fault. To be tamed, to be understood, you better do just the same as what the fox told our little prince to do.
You must be very patient. First you will sit down at a little distance from me– like that– in the grass. I shall look at you out of the corner of my eye, and you will say nothing. Words are the source of misunderstandings. But you will sit a little closer to me, every day. . .
I don’t know if we could be closer to someone we want to “tame” by that way. Perhaps you might sing this song along
But what the fox said really makes senses to me. Be slow, be reliable.
I shall show you how happy I am! But if you come at just any time, I shall never know at what hour my heart is to be ready to greet you. . .
Ah ha, there is a problem! A problem with time! I remember it was a summer night, i was lying on my couch, watching Sex and the city. The main girl character yelled at her boyfriend’s face : “You have no right to come back to my life and mess it all up!” even at that time, she missed him just so bad. Yes, we need some spaces, some times to rest, to gain love and to be ready for the new journey. As tame and being tamed should not be a short and quick progress, it also hurts and leaves some permanent scars. Once you be tamed, you will always want to be tamed, by the same people, at the same time. What would it be like if that one doesn’t want to tame us anymore?
One runs the risk of weeping a little, if one lets himself be tamed. . .
I have an episodic ideas running through my mind: Do you think that way? Are you afraid of being tamed and being ruined afterward as nothing lasts forever? Is it because we must have the space between? Is it why i have to let you go today?
Come, and read it all over again with me. In english, german, spanish or french. I know you still want to meet the little prince and the clever fox. I know you sometimes need your secret dreams to come true. I know you and what i feel for you is just so true, likes how my heart beats fast when i read about the schedule for taming of the fox…
Ah, and one other thing…
“Grown-ups never understand anything by themselves, and it is tiresome for children to be always and forever explaining things to them”
….Comment des enfants?